How To Put The Fun Back In To Your Wedding Planning
With the end of the year nearly upon us and your special day will be getting nearer and nearer. Judging from the flurry of orders that have arrived at The Pretty Wedding Shoe’s inbox, I am sure you are ready to start firming up some ideas and start your wedding planning in earnest!
Roll back a year and that describes me and my daughter and I do remember being a bit daunted by all we had to do. Her and her fiancé didn’t want a long engagement, so there was only 10 months from proposal to walking down the aisle. That was a pretty tight schedule given that we were making a lot of the things ourselves!
The venue she settled on was a beautiful hall barn. She managed to book the church, reception venue and get her dress in the first four weeks. I think this was pretty good going, even if the speed scared her fiancé a little!
Once the major things were booked we could concentrate on how she wanted the wedding to feel and look. We started off by going on Pinterest for ideas. We giggled as we both confessed that we had secret “wedding” boards already! It was interesting to see that we both had saved many of the same pins.
The first few months were spent just collecting ideas and talking. This stage is fun and exciting, but it can’t last forever and you realise that there comes a time when you actually have to make lots of decisions. As you may have found out, this is not as easy as it sounds, but you just have to jump in and get the ball rolling. Sometimes taking the first step helps you see the next step and so on.
Planned Days – The key!
The main thing we did to ward off overwhelm, stress, nervous breakdown and panic was to bring the fun back into our wedding planning with a clear structure. We did this by assigning one Saturday a month to a certain topic, such as flowers. We actually recorded it in our diaries and made the commitment to follow the plan. This usually also included coffee and cake! On this day, we would to make a clear plan of what was needed, book or shop as necessary for that particular topic. This really helped focus us and by breaking it down in to bite size pieces, it made our wedding planning fun and manageable. It was also great to start getting things ticked off the list. By the end of each session we have firmed up decisions, made or practiced different items or if needed scheduled another day to bring them to fruition!
So for example, as part of our wedding planning, we had decided we were going to do our own flowers for the church, venue, bouquets and button holes. We were on a budget and knew this would save money, but we didn’t have any idea of how many bunches of flowers we would need and we didn’t want to leave it to when we did them the day before the wedding, for obvious reasons – can you imagine the stress of finding out that flower arranging was not something you had even the slightest talent for or we had grossly underestimated the cost and volume of flowers! So we set aside a Saturday a few months before the wedding as a Flower Day. The week before we watched YouTube videos to learn different techniques and used our Pinterest board ideas to decide the kind of look she wanted. I was glad we did this as it also showed us what other things we would need such as florist tape and gave us time to pick some up.
On the appointed day, we both scoured the local super markets (Aldi and Tesco had a great selection) and met up for a coffee before heading home and setting to work. We wanted to nail the bridal party bouquets first, so we just got stuck in!
We were really pleased with the results and it helped us to work out roughly how many bunches of flowers we would need.
We also planted some gypsophillia and gave some seeds to green fingered grandparents. I am glad we did, as mine was a total disaster! After a promising start, I ended up with one stem and even that wasn’t useable !!!!
Friends also offered that we could take some greenery from their gardens and I really lucked out with my friend Marian, as she has a beautiful garden and when I went round to collect some foliage, her gardener was there and pruned a hydrangea bush and we ended up with loads of beautiful flowers to decorate the church.
You can see by the photos what fun we had and how well all our flowers turned out thanks to our wedding planning !
A Helpful List
Below are some other things which we scheduled in to make on various Saturdays:
Table Centre Pieces
Sweet Cart – we have one for sale – email if interested.
Various Signs and Programme for the reception
Table Numbers and Seating Plan – we opted for buffet and sit where you like!
Making beads on silver wire for hair
Chair back Decor
Signs for Desert Table
Flower Girl Baskets
Guest Advice for the Bride & Groom Book
Holder for Sparklers (at great success!)
Card Basket and Sign
Tea light holders
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